How to spice things up in the bedroom

How to spice things up in the bedroom

How to Spice Up Things In the Bedroom

Our lives turn into routine pretty quickly. All important aspects of your life — your job, hanging out with friends, going to the gym — are prone to becoming monotonous quickly. The same can happen with your sex life. When that happens, it is time to think about ways in which you and your partner can spice things up in the bedroom.

Luckily, this situation has many rather easy solutions. Different sex positions, erotic games, roleplay, and sex toys can all help bring your relationship to a whole new level. 

As with any matter in a relationship, communication is key. Sitting down with your partner and talking about your needs and wishes is the first and most important step you need to take. When that is done, you can start exploring new ways to bring more pleasure into your partnership. Read on to find out what they are.

Trying Out Different Sex Positions

A lot of couples go for quite a long time without trying a new sex position. Though sticking to what is known and predictable is easy, it can get boring quickly. So, if you are looking for an easy way to spice things up, researching some new positions could be just what you need.

Don’t get us wrong — you don’t have to go crazy and try out something you’re not comfortable with. Numerous sex positions require virtually no effort but can make all the difference. Here are some of them:

Standing Wrap

There is no middle when it comes to standing sex — you either love it, or you hate it. The best way to find out which is to try it out. This position is perfect for a raunchy quickie, as you don’t even have to take off any clothes. 

It can happen anywhere, as long as there is a solid wall to lean onto. The man does most of the work. All the woman needs to do is hold tight, wrap one leg around his torso, and enjoy the ride. 

Flat-Footed Cowgirl

Conversely, the flat-footed cowgirl has the woman doing most of the work. This one starts the same as the OG cowgirl does: with the lady on top. However, instead of resting her weight on her knees, she squats and rests it on her feet. 

This position allows her to move more vigorously and provides both parties with much more pleasure. Still, it’s important to note that this position is quite tiring, so you probably won’t be able to maintain it for long. The couple of minutes you do manage to enjoy will be more than worth it, though.


In the handcuffs position, the woman lies on her stomach on a hard surface (think a table or a kitchen counter). Meanwhile, the man holds her hands pinned behind her back and penetrates her from behind. This one involves power-play and can be great if you combine it with some sexy roleplay. 

With any position you decide to try out, safety and consent come first. Make sure to come up with a safe word and discuss exactly what you want to try before doing anything. That way, you’ll ensure both you and your partner have fun and enjoy yourselves while still staying safe.

Erotic Games

Who said sex can’t be fun? If you ever find yourself in a sexual rut where nothing feels exciting anymore, erotic games might be just what you need to get out of it. You can find new and exciting places to have sex by making a sex fort. Pick a nice and secluded place in your home, add blankets, pillows, toys, and lube. You’ll find that changing up the place can do a lot to elevate the mood and increase the pleasure.

Additionally, you can try games such as Twister, strip poker, or naked truth or dare. Certain apps, such as Kindu, iKamasutra, and Ohmibod, might also help. They are all highly interactive and fun ways to introduce some lusty excitement into your sex life. 

No matter which option you go with, remember that connecting with your partner is the main goal here. Finding new ways to deepen your relationship was never easier than it is today, so use that to your advantage. Your partnership will be all the better for it. 

Sexy Lingerie

Lingerie can help enhance the bedroom experience by a lot. However, it all depends on your and your partner’s preferences. We suggest hitting up some lingerie stores and seeing if anything sparks your interest. Pay close attention to items such as corsets, stockings, and different lingerie costumes. They are often the most popular.


Creating a scenario that you and your SO can act out before and during sex is one of the most exciting ways to spice up things in the bedroom. You can pick any scenario you are comfortable with and twist it any way you like.

Pretend you are strangers meeting for the first time and recreate your first time. Have your partner bring you a special delivery and then pretend you have no money to pay them. Luckily, you can compensate them in other, more exciting ways. Or, come up with any other plot that excites you and your partner and have fun with it.

The important thing to remember is that there is no right or wrong way to do roleplay. You can do it however you like as long as there is mutual consent and understanding.

Sex Toys

Did you know that 44% of women and 42% of men owns a sex toy, despite the overall taboo surrounding them? While people might not like talking about them, they seem to enjoy using them. And so can you — even if you’re a tad shy about it. For example, you can browse through an online sex toy shop from the comfort of your own home, without worrying about people judging you. And if you don’t care about other people’s opinions, consider going to an actual, brick-and-mortar sex shop with your partner — that might spice things up even further!

In any case, once you’re there, you may opt for something classic such as vibrators or dildos. However, you can also experiment with toys that are a bit less conventional. These include toys for sensual bathtub massages, such as Rub My Ducky, or anal beads. Anal beads are perfect for those who enjoy gradual pleasure and temperature play. They are made out of weighted metal that can be heated up or cooled down, depending on your preferences.

Whichever toy you pick, it is important to use it safely. Clean it after every use and follow all instructions while doing so. Also, always buy and use sex toys both you and your partner are comfortable with. 

Final Thoughts 

As you have read, coming up with new ways to spice things up in the bedroom can be pretty easy. Doing so will deepen the connection between you and your partner and make life much more exciting. Whichever of our suggestions you pick, the important thing is to stay safe and always talk with your partner beforehand. Consent and comfort are everything, and only if you achieve them will you be able to fully enjoy yourself and your partner.